I talk to enough people every week to get a sense of the kinds of bogus rules we seem to be universally concerned about breaking.
It’s too easy to think inside the box when it comes to living our daily lives.
So this week I’d thought I’d list a few of the “rules” I hear about and see what you think.
Are these really rules? Or just fraudulent ideas floating around, limiting people unnecessarily?
- You can’t go into business unless you know accounting
- You can’t call yourself an expert unless you have at least a master’s degree
- You can’t be an entrepreneur if you don’t like self-promotion
- You can’t support someone unless you agree with them
- You have to say Yes to a friend’s request unless you’re legitimately busy
- You can’t be angry or disappointed unless you’re prepared to do something about it
In my opinion, none of the above is actually a rule. But some of them sure feel like it.
Take the “can’t say no to a friend unless you’re busy” rule.
Whenever I RSVP online to an Evite invitation, I scroll through the No’s to read the excuses.
It’s fascinating to find out how many people are out of town on any given weekend, no matter what the time of year. Or having house guests, or surgery, or accepting an award, or performing a heart transplant…
Many of us need to feel like we have a legitimate excuse to say no, because we think we’re letting people down and we’d better not do that without a darn good reason.
Wouldn’t it be nice if introverts (I got your back, peeps) could just say, “Thanks for the invite, but I don’t like parties. Have fun!”
I think they should. If more of us subverted these rules, eventually they wouldn’t be rules anymore.
Can you think of other “rules” you’d rather not follow?